February 19, 2022

Exploring how adult ADHD affects romantic relationships

While romantic relationships can bring contentment and stability to adults with psychological disorders, conflict in such relationships adds incremental risk for developing depressive, anxiety, and substance use disorders. Moreover, persons with ADHD are more prone to such conflict than those without ADHD.

ADHD symptoms are negatively associated with satisfaction in dating relationships. One study found that female college students, blind to ADHD status, were less interested in male students with ADHD-Inattentive presentation than peers without ADHD. Another study found that college students who self-reported significant inattentive and hyperactive-impulsive symptoms also reported lower romantic relationship satisfaction than students not reporting such symptoms. A third study likewise found an inverse association between college student-reported inattentive symptoms and romantic relationship satisfaction, although it found no such association for self-reported hyperactive/impulsive symptoms.

This in turn has behavioral implications. One study found that college students with clinically elevated symptoms of inattention, hyperactivity/impulsivity, or both, reported higher levels of hostile conflict behavior with their partners than students without clinically elevated symptoms. Another study placed young couples through conflict resolutions. Couples in which one partner had ADHD demonstrated more negative and less positive conflict resolution behavior, and reported lower relational satisfaction, than couples in which neither partner had an ADHD diagnosis.

Worse yet, ADHD is a risk factor for dating violence. Two studies found that young adult males diagnosed with ADHD as children self-reported engaging in more frequent verbal and physical intimate partner violence than did their normally developing peers. Two more studies reported that men and women diagnosed with ADHD as children were at greater risk of becoming victims of such violence.

Adults with ADHD are also more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior. On average, they initiate sexual intercourse between one and two years earlier. They tend to have more partners and to make less frequent use of contraception than non-ADHD peers. As a result, adults with ADHD are also more likely to have unplanned pregnancies and to acquire sexually transmitted diseases.

Given these findings, it is hardly surprising that adults with ADHD report lower marital satisfaction than their normally developing peers. One study reported that 24 out of every 25 spouses of adults with ADHD felt their partner's symptoms interfered with their functioning in one or more domains, including general household organization/time management, child-rearing, and communication. Most studies have found that extramarital affairs, separation, and divorce are more frequent among couples in which one partner has ADHD.

ADHD is known to be highly heritable. That introduces further challenges. One study found that parents of children with ADHD are twice as likely to divorce by the time their child is eight years older than parents of children without ADHD. Another study found that disruptive child behavior is linked to parents arguing among themselves. This pattern was especially pronounced with parents who themselves had elevated ADHD symptoms. However, another study found that when both parents had ADHD symptoms, they were less likely to argue than when only one parent had such symptoms, or when neither did.

The authors note that there have been few longitudinal studies of the relationship to the behavior of adults with ADHD and that these are badly needed. This would help to understand how alcohol consumption relates to the development of relationship problems, for example.

Second, they point out that little is known about which subpopulations in the large population of adults with ADHD may be especially at risk for romantic relationship problems. Gender and history of maltreatment do not appear to be significant influences, but there is some evidence that alcohol and drug abuse may be a factor, as well as underachievement in adolescence. Moreover, the literature to date has focused on heterosexual Caucasian couples. There is a need for research with larger, more heterogeneous, population samples, and in particular with racial/ethnic minorities and LGBTQ+ adults.

Third, they suggest a need for further research on mediators between ADHD and romantic relationship problems. There are reasons to suspect a key role for emotion dysregulation and deficits in inhibitory controls. But studies to date have relied on self-reporting, which introduces respondent bias. Future studies should obtain ratings of ADHD and relationship functioning from other informants. There is also a need for studies focusing not just on younger adults, but also on older ones. Another critical need is for clinical trials testing the effectiveness of different interventions aiming to improve romantic relationship functioning.

The authors conclude, "Given that success in romantic relationships is considered by many to be a major developmental task and that ADHD persists for many affected individuals into adulthood, research on romantic adjustment of affected adults is surprisingly limited. The majority of existent published research points, however, to a robust association between ADHD and negative outcomes such as lower satisfaction in relationships, maladaptive conflict resolution styles, higher rates of relational dissolution, and behavioral issues such as unsafe sex and IPV."

Brian T. Wymbs, Will H. Canu, Gina M. Sacchetti, Loren M. Ranson, "Adult ADHD and romantic relationships: What we know and what we can do to help", Journal of Maritaland Family Therapy(2021),https://doi.org/10.1111/jmft.12475.

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Here’s What the Wall Street Journal Got Wrong about the Medication Treatment of ADHD Patients: A Lesson in Science Media Literacy

A recent Wall Street Journal article raised alarms by concluding that many children who start medication for ADHD will later end up on several psychiatric drugs. It’s an emotional topic that will make many parents, teachers, and even doctors worry: “Are we putting kids on a conveyor belt of medications?”

The article seeks to shine a light on the use of more than one psychiatric medication for children with ADHD.   My biggest worry about the article is that it presents itself as a scientific study because they analyzed a database.  It is not a scientific study.  It is a journalistic investigation that does not meet the standards of a scientific report..

The WJS brings attention to several issues that parents and prescribers should think about. It documents that some kids with ADHD are on more than one psychiatric medication, and some are receiving drugs like antipsychotics, which have serious side effects.  Is that appropriate? Access to good therapy, careful evaluation, and follow-up care can be lacking, especially for low-income families.  Can that be improved?  On that level, the article is doing something valuable: it’s shining a spotlight on potential problems.

It is, of course, fine for a journalist to raise questions, but it is not OK for them to pretend that they’ve done a scientific investigation that proves anything. Journalism pretending to be science is both bad science and bad journalism.

Journalism vs. Science: Why Peer Review Matters

Journalists can get big datasets, hire data journalists, and present numbers that look scientific.  But consider the differences between Journalism and Science. These types of articles are usually checked by editors and fact-checkers. Their main goals are:

 Is this fact basically correct?

 Are we being fair?

 Are we avoiding legal problems?

But editors are not qualified to evaluate scientific data analysis methods.  Scientific reports are evaluated by experts who are not part of the project.  They ask tough questions like: 

Exactly how did you define ADHD? 

How did you handle missing data? 

Did you address confounding? 

Did you confuse correlation with causation?

If the authors of the study cannot address these and other technical issues, the paper is rejected.

The WSJ article has the veneer of science but lacks its methodology.  

Correlation vs. Causation: A Classic Trap

The article’s storyline goes something like this:  A kid starts ADHD medication.  She has additional problems or side effects caused by the ADHD medications.   Because of that, the prescriber adds more drugs.  That leads to the patient being put on several drugs.  Although it is true that some ADHD youth are on multiple drugs, the WSJ is wrong to conclude that the medications for ADHD cause this to occur.  That simply confuses correlation with causation, which only the most naïve scientist would do.

In science, this problem is called confounding. It means other factors (like how severe or complex a child’s condition is) explain the results, not just the thing we’re focused on (medication for ADHD). 

The WSJ analyzed a database of prescriptions.  They did not survey the prescribers who made the prescriptions of the patients who received them.  So they cannot conclude that ADHD medication caused the later prescriptions, or that the later medications were unnecessary or inappropriate. 

Other explanations are very likely.   It has been well documented that youth with ADHD are at high risk for developing other disorders such as anxiety, depression,  and substance use.  The kids in the WSJ database might have developed these disorders and needed several medications.  A peer-reviewed article in a scientific journal would be expected to adjust for other diagnoses. If that is not possible, as it is in the case of the WSJ’s database, a journal would not allow the author to make strong conclusions about cause-and-effect.

Powerful Stories Don’t Always Mean Typical Stories

The article includes emotional accounts of children who seemed harmed by being put on multiple psychiatric drugs.  Strong, emotional stories can make rare events feel common.  They also frighten parents and patients, which might lead some to decline appropriate care. 

These stories matter. They remind us that each data point is a real person.  But these stories are the weakest form of data.  They can raise important questions and lead scientists to design definitive studies, but we cannot use them to draw conclusions about the experiences of other patients.  These stories serve as a warning about the importance of finding a qualified provider,  not as against the use of multiple medications.  That decision should be made by the parent or adult patient based on an informed discussion with the prescriber.

Many children and adults with ADHD benefit from multiple medications. The WSJ does not tell those stories, which creates an unbalanced and misleading presentation.  

Newspapers frequently publish stories that send the message:  “Beware!  Doctors are practicing medicine in a way that will harm you and your family.”   They then use case studies to prove their point.  The title of the article is, itself, emotional clickbait designed to get more readers and advertising revenue.  Don’t be confused by such journalistic trickery.

What Should We Conclude?

Here’s a balanced way to read the article.  It is true that some patients are prescribed more than one medication for mental health problems.  But the article does not tell us whether this prescribing practice is or is not warranted for most patients.  I agree that the use of antipsychotic medications needs careful justification and close monitoring.  I also agree that patients on multiple medications should be monitored closely to see if some of the medications can be eliminated.  Many prescribers do exactly that, but the WSJ did not tell their stories.  

It is not appropriate to conclude that ADHD medications typically cause combined pharmacotherapy or to suggest that combined pharmacotherapy is usually bad. The data presented by the WSJ does not adequately address these concerns.  It does not prove that medications for ADHD cause dangerous medication cascades.

We have to remember that even when a journalist analyzes data, that is not the same as a peer-reviewed scientific study. Journalism pretending to be science is both bad science and bad journalism.

Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Autism, and ADHD: New Research Examines the Connection

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)—a pattern of chronic irritability, anger, arguing, or defiance—is one of the most challenging behavioral conditions families and clinicians face. 

A new study involving 2,400 children ages 3–17 offers one of the clearest pictures yet. Using parent-reported data from the Pediatric Behavior Scale, researchers compared how often ODD appears in Autism spectrum disorder (ASD), ADHD-Combined presentation (ADHD-C), ADHD-Inattentive presentation (ADHD-I), and those with both ASD and ADHD.

Results

ADHD-Combined + ODD: The Highest-Risk Group

Children with ADHD-Combined presentation show both hyperactivity/impulsivity and inattention.  They had the highest ODD rates of any single diagnosis: 53% of kids with ADHD-Combined met criteria for ODD.

But when autism was added to ADHD-Combined, the prevalence jumped to 62%. This group also had the highest overall ODD scores, suggesting more severe or more impairing symptoms. 

This synergy matters: while autism alone increases ODD risk, the presence of ADHD-Combined is what pushes prevalence into the majority range. Other groups showed lower, but still significant, rates of ODD:

  • Autism + ADHD-Inattentive: 28%
  • Autism Only: 24%
  • ADHD-Inattentive Only: 14%

These findings echo what clinicians often see: children with inattentive ADHD, while struggling significantly with attention and learning, tend to show fewer behavioral conflict patterns than those with hyperactive/impulsive symptoms.

It is important to note that ODD is considered to have two main components. Across all diagnostic groups, ODD consistently broke down into these two components: either Irritable/Angry (emotion-based) or Oppositional/Defiant (behavior-based). But the balance between these components differed depending on diagnosis. Notably, Autism + ADHD-Combined showed higher levels of the irritable/angry component than ADHD-Combined alone. The oppositional/defiant component did not differ much between groups. This suggests that autism elevates the emotional side of ODD more than the behavioral side, which is important for clinicians to note before tailoring interventions.

Understanding ADHD , ASD, & Comorbidity:

The study notes that autism, ADHD, and ODD often cluster together, with 55–90% comorbidity in some combinations.

As the authors explain, The high co-occurrence of ADHD-Combined in autism (80% in our study) largely explains the high prevalence of ODD in autism.” 

Clinical Implications: Why This Study Matters

The researchers point to a straightforward recommendation: clinicians shouldn’t evaluate these conditions in isolation. A child referred for autism concerns might also be struggling with ADHD. A child referred for ADHD might have undiagnosed ODD. And ignoring one disorder can undermine treatment for the others.

Evidence-based interventions (behavioral therapy, parent training, school supports, and/or medication) can reduce symptoms across all three diagnoses while improving long-term outcomes, including overall quality of life.

November 21, 2025

What Sleep Patterns Reveal About Mental Health: A Look at New Research

Background:

Sleep is more than simple rest. When discussing sleep, we tend to focus on the quantity rather than the quality,  how many hours of sleep we get versus the quality or depth of sleep. Duration is an important part of the picture, but understanding the stages of sleep and how certain mental health disorders affect those stages is a crucial part of the discussion. 

Sleep is an active mental process where the brain goes through distinct phases of complex electrical rhythms. These phases can be broken down into non-rapid eye movement (NREM) and rapid eye movement (REM). The non-rapid eye movement phase consists of three stages of the four stages of sleep, referred to as N1, N2(light sleep), and N3(deep sleep). N4 is the REM phase, during which time vivid dreaming typically occurs. 

Two of the most important measurable brain rhythms occur during non-rapid eye movement (NREM) sleep. These electrical rhythms are referred to as slow waves and sleep spindles. Slow waves reflect deep, restorative sleep, while spindles are brief bursts of brain activity that support memory and learning.

The Study: 

A new research review has compiled data on how these sleep oscillations differ across psychiatric conditions. The findings suggest that subtle changes in nightly brain rhythms may hold important clues about a range of disorders, from ADHD to schizophrenia.

The Results:

ADHD: Higher Spindle Activity, Mixed Slow-Wave Findings

People with ADHD showed increased slow-spindle activity, meaning those brief bursts of NREM activity were more frequent or stronger than in people without ADHD. Why this happens isn’t fully understood, but it may reflect differences in how the ADHD brain organizes information during sleep. Evidence for slow-wave abnormalities was mixed, suggesting that deep sleep disruption is not a consistent hallmark of ADHD.

Autism: Inconsistent Patterns, but Some Signs of Lower Sleep Amplitude

Among individuals with autism spectrum disorder (ASD), results were less consistent. However, some studies pointed to lower “spindle chirp” (the subtle shift in spindle frequency over time) and reduced slow-wave amplitude. Lower amplitude suggests that the brain’s deep-sleep signals may be weaker or less synchronized. Researchers are still working to understand how these patterns relate to sensory processing, learning differences, or daytime behavior.

Depression: Lower Slow-Wave and Spindle Measures—Especially With Medication

People with depression tended to show reduced slow-wave activity and fewer or weaker sleep spindles, but this pattern appeared most strongly in patients taking antidepressant medications. Since antidepressants can influence sleep architecture, researchers are careful not to overinterpret the changes.  Nevertheless, these changes raise interesting questions about how both depression and its treatments shape the sleeping brain.

PTSD: Higher Spindle Frequency Tied to Symptoms

In post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), the trend moved in the opposite direction. Patients showed higher spindle frequency and activity, and these changes were linked to symptom severity which suggests that the brain may be “overactive” during sleep in ways that relate to hyperarousal or intrusive memories. This strengthens the idea that sleep physiology plays a role in how traumatic memories are processed.

Psychotic Disorders: The Most Consistent Sleep Signature

The clearest and most reliable findings emerged in psychotic disorders, including schizophrenia. Across multiple studies, individuals showed: Lower spindle density (fewer spindles overall), reduced spindle amplitude and duration, correlations with symptom severity, and cognitive deficits.

Lower slow-wave activity also appeared, especially in the early phases of illness. These results echo earlier research suggesting that sleep spindles, which are generated by thalamocortical circuits, might offer a window into the neural disruptions that underlie psychosis.

The Take-Away:

The review concludes with a key message: While sleep disturbances are clearly present across psychiatric conditions, the field needs larger, better-standardized, and more longitudinal studies. With more consistent methods and longer follow-ups, researchers may be able to determine whether these oscillations can serve as reliable biomarkers or future treatment targets.

For now, the take-home message is that the effects of these mental health disorders on sleep are real and measurable.